the curse of the blogger

I need to stop looking at my blog views and reader country list and wondering why so many people just read and dont comment and remember why I started this blog in the first place. Yes, it was in part to meet new people and show my friends/family what I’m doing whilst away but a big part of it was for myself. I didnt go into it thinking that if I dont get people commenting it’d be a big deal, but somehow it has turned into one.

I think that the thing for me is that when I know people from back home are reading and keeping up to date I am happy, but I dont know who exactly is reading and what is happening in their lives. They walk away feeling in contact with me and all filled in on my life but I never know. I dont even know that they’ve checked in on me unless they comment. Or send me a private email! Either way, I want to know what is happening in your lives too!! This was never supposed to be a selfish one way communication. It was about sharing – and that goes both ways!!

The thing I miss the most about home (apart from the weather) is my family and friends. In all of my life I can honestly say that I havent had a better bunch of friends than I do now. Every one of my friends has been hand picked, tested, challenged and appreciated. And my family? Well they know how strange I can be and they love me for it.

((some family shots not uploaded due to request -but imagine Mum, my bro and sis in law also here))

They are a big chunk of the heart and soul of my life in Australia. I feel like I am being a bad friend as I am not in as much contact as I’d like to be, but each time I write a blog I feel like I send them an email with my news. I kinda feel like in a way I have to pause my life back in Australia and hope when I get home and press play they will all still be there. I have this fear now and then that they’ll all find better friends and forget about me. I know it’s silly, but thats me sometimes. I know that friendship isnt about comments, or emails – its about the truth. It’s about the actions and not the words.

Anyway, I have realised that even though everything you see can be totally different in a new country the people and underlying issues remain the same. Friendship is so important, never forget to take the time to tell someone how much you care!

I have been lucky enough to make a few new friends whilst being in Canada too, and I cherish them equally. Sometimes I stand there, in my silent world, and I think “gee I am boring. I cant even think of anything interesting to say. How can anyone want to spend time with me?” But they do. They keep inviting me out, and I am so grateful for that. My social skills leave a lot to be desired. Sometimes I ramble on and sometimes I just sit there blankly. I dont have all the answers, and thats not always a bad thing.

So on a news front I’ll be going to Vancouver Island for the Victoria Day long weekend (which I just found out is to honour Queen Victoria’s birthday) so I am excited about that – adventure and new discoveries await. I have booked a whale watching trip, so fingers crossed I get to see some Orcas and cross that off the list too! Not sure if I’ll be blogging from there or not, will see how I go. Might take a break, but then again…

Take care and happy adventuring!!


12 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Cristina
    May 22, 2010 @ 05:23:24

    I have my blog since like a year ago. The first posts were a shit, and no one spent time writing, then they became better, but the answer was the same as you can see if you look at it. As you say, I don’t blog to people comment, just for myself and meet people, but if they don’t you don’t know if they have been reading or not..

    Have so much fun!! I’d love to see some orcas (and dolphins too) someday!!



  2. Diana
    May 22, 2010 @ 12:53:09

    Great post..I think its normal that many readers love to read what someone writes but they dont comment…Probably 20% of my daily readers comment…The rest just reads it and sometimes they might write an email….I do agree that its so nice to read the comment and I do love that too…Its the best part really….Right?
    I hope they will comment more soon!!!
    I wish you that:)
    Kisses and those photos are very very cute:)
    Enjoy your weekend:)


  3. LynB49
    May 22, 2010 @ 15:50:37

    Your blog gives us joy because we know and love you but remember that life gives back in many different ways. Maybe your break in Vancouver Island will refresh you. Go enjoy!!


  4. Gail
    May 22, 2010 @ 23:27:00

    Hi Alesha,

    Uncle John and Aunty Gail want you to add their photos.

    It was great to see and speak to you yesterday. Enjoy your trip to Vancouver Island

    Lots of love and huggz xoxo


  5. Sabine
    May 24, 2010 @ 05:01:01

    I check on your blog often, but I admit, I am bad at commenting : (
    Your adventures are amazing and your blog is honest and true : )


    • Alesha
      May 24, 2010 @ 15:46:12

      Thanks Sabine! Nice to know you’re around šŸ™‚


      • Sabine
        May 24, 2010 @ 16:38:38

        it has been a very busy couple of months for us…the reason i will share soon enough šŸ™‚
        all good though. i hope to get back into blogging and commenting more regularly though…i just worry sometimes that my life is waaay too boring for people to read about, so sometimes it causes me to freeze on the blogging front. lol

      • Alesha
        May 25, 2010 @ 17:21:07

        I understand the feeling completely! But I got some great advice from an old acting teacher, he told me that we are all way more interesting han we give ourselves credit for. It’s true. I find your blog interesting, and sometimes think mine and my life isnt. We all feel that way about ourselves!

        Hope all is well and keep in touch and keep blogging

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